You’ve been seeing a man who loves you, whether he uses the word or not. He loves sex with you, but more than that, he loves being with you. Even so, he hasn’t committed himself to you fully.

George Weinberg Ph. D., author of " Why Men Won’t Commit: Getting What You Both Want Without Playing Games"

gives 5 tips for getting your man to commit:

1.Learn to listen him without giving him advice or criticizing him.

He needs to know that it’s safe to tell you more. And the more he tells you, the more committed he will become.Listen when he tells you about his worries, but do not give him any advise (the time for this will come). Advice is not what he needs. He needs your understanding.

2. Make your man feel special - show him that you love him
Early in the relationship, avoid asking him resume questions. Look out for questions like, "How much do you make?" "Did you go to college?" "Where?" "Were you ever married" "For how long?" "What do your parents do for a living?" These questions suggest that you are sizing him up and deciding if he is a good risk as a potential husband.

3.Be natural. Be yourself and don’t conceal your tastes or the things you like.


Be yourself. If you feel like crying at a movie, cry. If you feel like laughing, laugh. Being natural will encourage him to be the same. . Never put yourself under pressure by starting out with a lie.

4. Give your man the sense that he can keep his freedom - at least to a reasonable degree.

While you, as a woman, think of a new relationship as changing your life, your man thinks only of preservation. You may look forward to buying a new house, having kids, changing jobs, taking joint vacations. Meanwhile, he is determined to keep his old routines and change as little as he can. To him, sameness means security. For instance, be sure that he still has time to see his men friends alone. Give him the reassurance that he’s still a guy and can still travel light, up to a point, by being easy about time he spends away from you.

5. Don’t let him do too much for you or spend too much, (even if he volunteers).
If the balance goes too far this way, he will wake up some morning and ask himself, "What am I getting into?" He will want to swing the pendulum the other way, which will be bad news for you. Early in the relationship, he may reaffirm his sense of maleness by fixing everything in your house, and you may feel taken care of. But don’t let him go too far. If you can easily pay for something to get done, or if someone else can do part of the job, don’t overburden your man. Don’t give him the sense that he has to do too much, that you are too costly. The same with money. Some men overspend on women they care for and then feel, "I can’t afford this!" and run away.Or, every so often, suggest making dinner for him at home, or going out for pizza and a movie instead of something fancy.



6. Insist on sexual fidelity once you feel you need it.

Some women fear that their guy will get nervous if they demand monogamy. Once again, the opposite is true. Your man wants you to want only him. He will be secretly flattered and will start to feel very secure if you demand this arrangement.Some women fear that their guy will get nervous if they demand monogamy. Once again, the opposite is true. Your man wants you to want only him. He will be secretly flattered and will start to feel very secure if you demand this arrangement.